How to Keep Your Sanity When Your Husband is Your Best Friend’s Husband’s Best Friend
- KOunscripted
- Oct 6
- 2 min read
By K & O of KO Unscripted
When you meet your best friend, you hope your husbands get along. You pray they can at least tolerate each other so you can have double dates without awkward small talk.
But then… they go and become best friends.
Suddenly, it’s not just your friendship that’s inseparable—it’s theirs too. Which sounds adorable, right? Until you realize it’s a blessing and a curse.
The Blessing
Built-in double dates. No awkward plus-one invites. No “oh, I guess we should invite her husband too” situations. It’s automatic.
Vacation planning is a breeze. Four people, one shared Google doc, and boom—instant trip.
They get it. Your best friend knows exactly what your husband is like because she’s basically living the parallel version of your life.
Hunting season = bonus girl time. When the guys vanish into the woods with their camo and deer stands, you suddenly get uninterrupted coffee dates, cozy fall porch hangs, and maybe even a pumpkin spice latte without having to share.
The Curse
You can’t complain freely. Every time you vent to your best friend about your husband’s bad habit, she has to walk a fine line because, well… she’s going to dinner with him on Friday.
The bromance gets in the way. Sometimes you just want girl time, but nope—they’re already planning their next hunt, golf game, or beer-and-bonfire night.
It’s a four-way schedule juggle. Between kids’ school events, football games, hunting weekends, and holiday chaos, your Google calendar looks like a fall corn maze—and no one can find the exit.
How to Keep Your Sanity
Claim Girl Time as Sacred You need friend-only space. Put it on the calendar and guard it like it’s the last pumpkin pie at Thanksgiving dinner.
Embrace the Bromance Yes, they’ll have inside jokes. Yes, they’ll disappear to the hunt club, or get lost in the woods before dawn. Let them. A husband busy with deer season isn’t asking what’s for dinner.
Double Date… with Rules Establish boundaries—no work talk, no endless sports debates, and for the love of pumpkin spice, no political rants.
Don’t Lose Your Own Identity It’s easy for the friendship to morph into a group identity. Remember—you’re still individuals with your own lives, hobbies, and dreams. Go apple-picking, sign up for a yoga class, or just binge a fall rom-com by yourself with a blanket.
Laugh About It Because honestly? It’s hilarious. Your husbands are basically each other’s emotional support humans. You might as well enjoy the show (preferably with a cinnamon donut in hand).
The Bottom Line
When your best friend’s husband is your husband’s best friend, life gets intertwined. You’ll spend a lot of time together—sometimes too much—but you’ll also share some of the best memories of your life.
Fall makes it all feel a little cozier: football in the background, bonfires in the backyard, kids running around in hoodies, and the guys swapping hunting stories like it’s a second language.
It’s not always perfect, but it’s a rare and special kind of friendship. And if you can balance the girl time, the guy time, and the all-together time, you’ll find it’s worth every calendar shuffle.
xo, K & O KO Unscripted
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