The Friendship I Didn’t Know I Needed—Until I Had It

If you had told me ten years ago that my husband’s new buddy would lead me to one of the most important relationships of my life, I’d have laughed and poured another glass of wine. But here we are.

Making friends in your 30s is hard. Like..."do I text her first?" hard. You're in the thick of raising kids, managing a marriage, juggling work or home life, and somewhere along the way, you forget how to connect outside of school pickups and awkward PTA small talk. You crave realness, but everything feels a little… curated.

And then something unexpected happens: your husband meets his people.

That’s how it started for us. Our husbands met first—just two grown men with the same sarcastic humor, love for hunting and fishing, and mutual ability to make inappropriate jokes at exactly the wrong time. They clicked instantly.

So naturally, we were introduced.

And honestly? I didn’t expect much. I was in a season where making “mom friends” felt like dating. It’s exhausting trying to figure out if someone is your kind of chaos. But something clicked. And over time, it went from casual dinners to inside jokes, late-night text therapy, voice notes about parenting struggles, and showing up for each other in the messy, unfiltered middle of life.

Between us, there are five kids—my two (9 & 7) and her three (10, 8 & 7)—and they might as well be siblings. They bicker like family. They love like family. And when we say we’re doing something together? They don’t ask who’s coming. They just assume they are.

But it’s not just the kids.

Our families have become each other’s village. We vacation together. We celebrate holidays and birthdays like one big family. Our husbands are best friends. Our kids share rooms when they sleep over. We know each other’s routines, coffee orders, and the exact tone of voice that means “I’m barely hanging on.”When one of us can’t be there, the other one steps in. No keeping score. No questions asked. Just pure, solid support in the trenches of real life.

We’ve seen each other through some heavy stuff. Real trauma. Life didn’t pull any punches, but somehow—through poolside conversations, car confessions, and laughing so hard we cried—we made it through. Together.

That’s the thing about finding your people later in life. You’re more guarded, but also more grateful. You don't have time for surface-level friendships anymore. You need people who are in the arena with you—cheering when you win, picking you up when you fall, and texting you memes when you’re spiraling.

And that’s what we are.

That’s what KO Unscripted was born from. Two women, two moms, two wives, living this wild, suburban life side by side—raw, unfiltered, and very much in it. We figured if our friendship could survive the chaos and come out stronger, maybe others needed to hear it too.

So welcome to our world—where the kids are loud, the coffee is cold, the husbands are our rock, and the friendship is the glue.

We’re so glad you’re here.

XO,

K of K+O